Who are we? Why did we create this site?
I started the Farewell Project after a friend died and nobody knew what he wanted:
- Did he have a will? And where was it?
- Who should be in charge of what?
- What do we do with his body?
- How do we pay for this? His money? How do we get at it? Out of pocket?
- What sort of funeral or memorial or party would he have preferred?
- Why is this all so confusing?
Then the fighting began (which I would later learn is common among families).
After nothing got truly resolved I figured there has to be a better way.
So I began learning: reading every “death care” book I could find and then talking to people. And one thing soon became clear: no one really likes the way we do this.
“That’s the way it’s always been done.”
My aim with the Farewell Project is to find a better way.
- To help you Learn so that you feel empowered.
- To Plan so that wants are clear and there are no surprises.
- To Connect with others and discover what we’re all thinking and doing.
And along the way to provide some much needed clarity and value and hopefully save you some time and money in the process.
Through both technology and eye-to-eye real human interaction, perhaps we can change the way we conduct goodbye and embrace it as a lifelong project not to be afraid of but to be embraced, knowing that all of our hopes and wishes and most importantly our story will continue long after we’re gone.
Let’s help each other create a better way.
What People Say
There are known knowns. There are things we know we know. We also know, there are known unknowns. That is to say we know there are some things we do not know. But there are also unknown unknowns. The ones we don’t know we don’t know.Donald Rumsfeld
People get little practice, and someone with reliable information can be a great help to the family.Thomas Lynch
Funeral Director, Poet, Writer
Most beautiful memorial services have a lot of humor.John Cleese